Thursday, April 22, 2010

Hello Miss G, My sister and her family are coming to visit at the end of the month. I love her, but her kids are really bratty and loud. They always manage to destroy something. Is it wrong for me to suggest that she stay at a hotel instead of with me?

Hello Writer! You have posed a million dollar question. Dealing with touchy issues with family can be difficult because of heightened emotions. I completely understand your feelings about your sister's children. My question to you is...have you ever mentioned your feelings to her before? As odd as it may sound, she may not know that her kids are out of control. Start by doing that, but (again) I stress that you should choose your words wisely. Everyone is going to be defensive when it comes to their child, so be delicate. I wouldn't ask her to stay in a hotel just yet. Next, take charge of your household during their visit. Step in when her kids begin to act out, and lay down the rules and the consequences. This should cue her about your expectations. If, that doesn't work...print out mapquest directions to the closest Marriot.:)

~G~

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4 comments:

  1. I am sorry to say but hotel seems like a great idea. As far as the parents "not knowing", sorry again but they do know their little brats are out of control. They only bring them to relatives!!!! About this on every door of the house: Hello family & friends YOU BRAKE IT, YOU REPLACE IT...
    jf

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  2. jf, you are hilarious! But, unless you don't mind starting WWIII....it may pay to be a bit more gentle (lol);)

    ~G~

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  3. Let me try to be gentle. About calling the sister afterwards and say: After you left with the lovely kids, I had to replace a faucet, the toilet seat, the TV does not work anymore, all chairs have broken legs, all walls need to be repainted,the rugs are a mess. I am broke but happy. I cannot wait for the next visit.
    jf

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  4. Now your sister should know better, and should have replaced all of that before her departure. Maybe you can suggest to her to seek the guidance of a School Psychologist ;) for behavior management techniques...hehe

    G

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