Wednesday, August 11, 2010

Do You Have To Accept Everything Your Kids Choose To Do?

Today's post is dedicated to a recent news report that made waves this week. By now, you have probably heard about Montana Fishburne's foray into Hollywood the porn industry. Her last name is likely to be familiar because her father is movie star Lawrence Fishburne (a.k.a. Morpheus from the Matrix movies). Anyhoo...18-year-old Montana is hoping that her new porn video will help her become a huge star like her famous dad.

Interestingly, Montana uses Kim Kardashian's rise to fame as motivation. "I've watched how successful Kim Kardashian became and I think a lot of it was due to the release of her sex tape. I'm hoping the same magic will work for me. I'm impatient about getting well-known and having more opportunities, and this seemed like a great way to get started on it." Sigh....

Here's the motivation for my post....Montana has stated in interviews that she wants her family to be proud of her no matter what she chooses to do, or what path she takes. Doing porn, she says, is a dream come true and something she has wanted to do for a long time. (Sidebar...remember she's only 18). After losing her virginity at 16, she describes her own personal sexual awakening and how she felt exhilarated after seeing herself on tape. According to Montana, her mother is supportive of her decisions, while daddy Fishburne is not. Sooooo......can YOU blame him?

Montana feels that her family should accept all of her decisions without judgment. I think not! However, her naivety is expected of someone her young age. Most of us do not go down her same path. But most of us didn't think about the "bigger picture" either when we were younger. Consequently, many of us made stupid (REALLY STUPID) choices. However, part of being a parent means having the responsibility to appropriately guide our children. Sometimes that means taking a strong stance against what our children choose to do. Thus, although Montana feels that she is fully grown, she is only 18. Despite the fact that she is legally able to make her own decisions, it does not mean that her parents have to accept her decisions.

I'm not ready to go "there" in this post...but please believe that g thinks that there are serious dynamic and underlying issues that helped fuel Montana's behavior. But I'll keep relatively silent for now.... Nonetheless, I am interested in what you would do if your daughter or son decided to put out a sex tape! Would you be supportive of their sexual liberation, or would you be mortified? Sound off pundits!!!!!

Share your thoughts after watching Montana's recent interview about how she thinks her porn video will open up doors for her.

Happy Parenting,

Montana Fishburne interview

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  1. Ain't no way in the WORLD,I would be supportive,relaxed,non-chalant or any other adjective you want to throw in there. It wouldn't matter if it was my daughter OR my son,I would have a SERIOUS problem.

    Also,I seriously doubt her mother is ok with it and if she is,maybe that explains the reason she thinks becoming a porn star will get her career started. So sad!

  2. @Mod...I couldn't agree with you more. In fact, I would be distraught, disturbed, and disoriented as a result. So sad indeed! What in the world is going on with the Fishburnes??? Let's all pray that sanity will be restored in their home, and that healing occurs!