Friday, June 24, 2011

Who Allows Their Teen To Have Sex At Home: Lots of Parents

Hmmmmm..... What a crazy week in the news. Lindsay gets off, OJ may confess to killing Nicole and Ron to Oprah, and Bristol Palin talks about the loss stealing of her virginity.  But the one news story that had my mind imploding is the segment that Elisabeth Hasselbeck did for ABC News regarding parents allowing their teens to have sex at home.  Have you heard about it?  No...well let g fill you in (lol)!

Ok, so Elisabeth interviewed parents and teens about this issue. Of course, the adult panel was divided.  The pro argument was that kids do it anyway so why not allow them to do it in a safe and controlled environment.  The con... that the boundaries are too far blurred.  Hmmmm.... (just breath g)! 

My rant professional  opinion:

Yes, it's true that teens experiment sexually.  It's to be expected because their hormones are peaking as they are becoming young adults.  However, the argument that parents use who allow their teens to have sex at home is flawed.  Just because teens may experiment with sex....alcohol....drugs...etc.  does not mean that it has to be condoned by their parents.  What happened to the education piece.  You know...where we talk to our kids and instruct, guide, instill values and' parent.  As with any issue, we do all that we can to teach our kids right from wrong, and then expect that the foundation that we laid will inspire our kids to make the right choices.

Interestingly enough!  The teens that were interviewed indicated that it they were uncomfortable with being allowed to have sex at home.  One girl made a powerful statement when she expressed how it would make it more difficult for her to say no to her boyfriend if he knew that her parents condoned them having sex under their roof.  Sometimes children make more sense than the adults! would the whole "it's okay to have sex thing" work.  Would you need to leave the house to give the tweens some private time?  Do you let the partner stay the night while you wear earplugs to muffle the noise.  Good grief....what's for "marital toys" with your 14-yr-old?????  Puh-leeze someone tell me that I'm not the only one that feels this way!

Watch the video and share your thoughts....

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Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Babyland: No Place For Children

I learned something recently that really troubled me so much that I simply had to write about it. I found out that there is a place in America where babies die at a rate that would be expected in a third world or underdeveloped nation. But, it’s not Somalia, Angola, or Cambodia that I’m writing about. Nope, it’s Tennessee! Of the 23 richest countries, the United States has the highest rate of infant mortality, according to the CIA World Fact Book.

The first city health department report warning that Memphis had a problem with infant mortality was issued in 1935. Clearly, this issue has not changed because the state health department has reported that in Shelby County, a baby dies every 43 hours! Hospitals are reportedly overwhelmed with the number of single mothers who lack of prenatal care. The babies most at risk are African Americans from the most impoverished parts of town.

Every Tuesday and Thursday in Memphis, as the miniscule bodies accumulate, the Health Department takes over for the families who can't afford a funeral. The tiny bodies are buried in a cemetery referred to as Babyland. Although the name is reminiscent of an amusement park filled with exciting rides and pony rides…it is not a place you will ever want your children to go.

So what are the factors that influence child mortality? Here is a list of issues that negatively affect pregnancy and/or child health:

  • Lifestyle Choices
  • Maternal Health 
  • Alcohol and Drug/Substance Use
  • Birth Defects 
  • Poor Nutrition
  • Disease (STD)
  • Irregular Prenatal Care 
  • Infections
  • Closely spaced 
  • Psychological Stressors 
  • Poverty
  • Domestic Violence
As you can see, the majority of the issues on the list are preventable or easily treatable. However, community education is key. There are many organizations and initiatives that provide free or very affordable services that can help save the lives of babies. Here is a short list:

Healthy Start
Designed to meet community needs, the projects include outreach, case management, health education and community consortia. For more information, visit

Medicaid and SCHIP
Medicaid is a state and federal partnership that provides access to prenatal care for eligible mothers and health coverage for millions of infants from low-income families.

Toll-free prenatal care hotline
A toll-free hotline to assist pregnant women and others seeking information on prenatal care, including referrals to local clinics and physicians. Assistance is available in English at 1-800-311-BABY (2229) and in Spanish at 1-800-504-7081.

The situation in Memphis is truly saddening. However, it is my sincerest hope that sufficient intervention occurs that will help to make an impact on the trend that we are seeing. Much of this is preventable…but outreach is sorely needed.
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