Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Back To School Readiness

Hi Friends,

Summer is coming to an end...sniffle:( You know what that means...it's time for school! Are you prepared? Need some help? No worries, because here are some tips that might help you ease into the school year like a pro! Enjoy:)


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Monday, July 29, 2013

Hide Your Kids and Hide Your Wives....Pastor's at the Pulpit

Hi Pundits!!!! I realize that I have been dormant for quite some time, but there have been a lot of recent events in the world that have awakened my writing impulse. For example, you may have heard about the little 'ole Zimmerman trial. No, I'm not writing about that today because I am still too angry and disgusted about the outcome. Nope, I won't go there today with you. Instead, I want to talk about a news story that came across my screen yesterday. It's one that has me scratching my temple and side eyeing so hard it makes my crows feet ache.
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Here it goes....

Christ Tabernacle Missionary Baptist Church in Jacksonville, FL has banned children from attending Sunday services because their new pastor, Darrell Gilyard, is a registered sex offender and cannot have contact with children. I'm sure you probably had to pause and reread that sentence...cuz it sounds CRAZY AS ALL OUTDOORS. The good pastor plead guilty in 2009 to lewd conduct and lewd molestation of two underage girls. He was the pastor of Shiloh Baptist Church when he molested a 15-year-old girl, and sent a lewd text message to another. Under the conditions of his plea agreement, the pedophile pastor cannot have “unsupervised contact with children under 18 years old.” However, even any supervised contact must be OK'd by a therapist. 

It gets better...

There are even more reports of behavior unbecoming of a human pastor. According to the Guardian's report, in 2004, Gilyard also admitted that he had fathered a child with a woman who had accused him of raping her during a counseling session.  It should be noted that he was never charged with that crime.

Wait for it....

The church's attendance has spiked since he joined the church family.  It has grown from 10 to 200 members.  Sigh

My Humble Thoughts....

Maybe something is wrong with me.  Maybe  I have lost my mind.  Maybe I've slipped into psychosis and my sense of reality is off.  Or just maybe the members of  Christ Tabernacle Missionary Baptist Church are crazy.  I choose the latter explanation.

What exactly do they say to their children as they head out to Sunday services, "Sorry sweetie you can't come because Pastor Gilyard might be tempted to rape you."  Wh wh what????  Come on people of Jacksonville!  Surely your children's spiritual formation is more important to you than supporting a pastor (I cringe every time I am forced to type that word before his name) with a lengthy abusive past.  I say give him the boot, and open up the door to children so they can worship as part of the larger group.

Here's my question to my fellow pundits.  What's worse...knowing that your pastor is a pedophile and banning children from church, OR Not knowing that the pastor is a pedophile and allowing him around your children. 

It's not secret that the Catholic church has been rocked with bad press following countless allegations and convictions related to sexual abuse by priests.  But did you know that there is a place where these men of the cloth sickos go for rehabilitation.  The Servants of the Paraclete is a Catholic order founded at Jemez Springs, New Mexico, in 1947 which offers this type of counseling.  The priests are then returned to their Parish or sent to other ones without the public knowing.

Please understand that I do believe in repentance, and in a forgiving God.  But uh rum ma...I can neither stomach nor trust a pedophile...Whether or not they stand at a street corner... or the pulpit.  So, in my loudest Spike Lee voice "WAAAAAAAAAAAKKKKEEE UP" Christ Tabernacle Missionary Baptist Church.  Your pastor is a pedophile. 

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Friday, January 18, 2013

How to Have More Patience with Your Kids

Today's guest post is provided by www.NannyPro.com who contacted me and asked that I consider sharing this content with my readers.  This article is certainly appropriate for my fellow parenting pundits, so it is with pleasure that I share it with you!  We could all use these tips:)

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The following is provided by www.nannypro.com:

Patience is hardly a trait people are born with, so when parents are pressed to care for themselves and their children, it should come as no surprise that patience can wear thin. Fortunately, there are some things you can do to increase your patience, decrease your stress, and better enjoy your parental role and relationship with your kids.

  1. Learn to self-soothe. When your patience is being challenged, put yourself in a mental timeout. Taking a deep breath in through your nose and blowing it out through your mouth, visualizing a calming and relaxing place, practicing positive self-talk, and turning on classical music can offer an almost instantaneous calming effect, allowing you to work through the situation at hand.                                                                                                                                                 
  2. Establish you time. If you don’t set aside time for yourself to meet your own physical, spiritual, emotional, creative and intellectual needs, you’ll naturally be short tempered with others. Whether you pencil in an hour each day into your schedule to have time to yourself or set your alarm to wake up a half hour before anyone else to enjoy your coffee and start your morning in peace, meeting your needs will empower you to better be able to meet the needs of others.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
  3. Set your priorities. Feeling like you’re being pulled in a bunch of different directions can be stressful. More stress translates into less patience. Each week, make a list of your priorities to help guide you through your week. When you have a set of priorities you’re less likely to feel frazzled and stressed.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
  4. Consider your goals. During times when your patience is wearing thin, keep your eyes on the prize. Consider what lessons you’re trying to instill in your children and what type of relationship you wish to have with them. Letting your goals guide you during your interactions, you’ll find yourself slowing down and wanting to spend the time and energy in the moment you’re in.                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
  5. Take a break. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, you can watch your patience disappear before your very eyes. In these times, ask your spouse or a friend, or hire a babysitter to step in and care for the children. Even a short window of time can help you regroup and refocus and when you do, your patience will return.                                                                                                   
  6. Meet your children’s needs. Children who are well-fed and well-rested behave better than those who are not. Better behaved children are less likely to test your patience, so work towards meeting their daily needs to help them from pushing the limits of your patience.                              
  7. Have realistic expectations. Consider the ages and stages of your children and your own abilities and give yourself a break. When you’re aware of your children’s developmental abilities and your own strengths and weaknesses, you’re better able to manage your expectations. Realistic expectations can help you to better manage and extend your patience.

When all else fails, don’t give up. When you’re feeling short on patience or you didn’t extend as much as you would have liked, go easy on yourself and commit to trying again. When it comes down to it, the only way to increase patience is to practice it.